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Black Breastfeeding Week

Wow! Okay, I didn’t know this week even existed. But since it does… perhaps I should share a piece of my own journey. Currently, many women speak about their over the moon joy of breastfeeding. I won’t say I am over the moon, more or so, just blessed I was able to have the experience and save money. These days Similac is $40 a can, and an average baby can drink that in 3-5days. I’m more reasonable to what makes sense. Also, breastfed babies don’t get as sick as much and as quick as babies that aren’t. The first two weeks of breastfeeding were the most difficult and painful. We had a great latch, and Alana loved the milk (not all babies do), but waking up every 2-3 hours, and the scabbing of your nipples (yes your nipples get scabbed up, they’ve never produced milk before) was overwhelming. Every time Alana was hungry I literally jumped when she latched, because the pain hurt so bad. For me it hurt worse than labor! The pain on …

Oh Baby aka Alana’s Arrival

Many women put having a child on the top of their “to do” list or the top of their priorities. Me however, not so much. When my husband and I found out we were pregnant, it was definitely a life changing moment. Knowing sooner than later, our lives would never be the same. I had many obstacles throughout my pregnancy. Not with my health, or my baby, but my mentality, people giving me advice I didn’t want nor asked for, people trying to touch me, or tell me how I should be feeling or doing.  I found this to be very difficult because I am a private woman and I like to handle my own battles/ challenges on my own, or just lean on my husband for support. It’s funny, now looking back on it… my pregnancy experience was very smooth, and quite frankly, fast. Leading up to Princess Alana’s arrival, my husband and I wrote down each contraction to figure out whether we were going into labor or not; lol we had no clue, …

TV Talk

Weekly my husband and I have specific shows we look forward to watching during the week (I sound very married lol). We plan what day, times, and also look for new and exciting shows that we may enjoy watching together. The shows that always give us a great conversation, are the reality shows. For example, Married at First Sight, Married to Medicine, Southern Charm New Orleans, Black Ink Crew Chicago, and all the Love and Hip Hop’s. We will pause a scene on the TV and discuss if we think a person handled a situation the right way or what we may do in that particular situation. I appreciate the conversations my husband and I have, and I also look forward to them; he’s my best friend. I believe it is important to have different dynamic conversations and discuss them in an adult manner. You never know what life may throw at you; so for me, I need to know what my mate’s mentality is or where he may stand in different situations. My husband …

An Apple for Teacher

Growing up in Bellevue, Nebraska I always considered teachers as the role model, a person of trust and care. And in all my life, I have one teacher that will always be my favorite and stay dear to my heart. Her name is Mrs. Knight. She still to this day asks me to call her Janet, but I could never get myself to call her that lol. I fast forward about 17 years of my life and I am now a Special Education teacher for one of the most over populated growing districts in San Antonio Texas; or should I say most known district. I think about how much has changed since I graduated from high school (which was eight years ago) and what my mentality and expectations were (for myself and what expectations my principal had for the students). Our high school had a graduation rate of 99 percent. Our principal, Mrs. Custard, bent forward and backwards for the students and was in the hallway each and every day. I look at my daily …

Time & Space

One of the most prominent gifts God gives me is time, so I don’t waste it. I believe many people take for granted this gift, and think they have all the time to get right socially, academically, with family, being a good friend, physically… we all have an expiration date. If we take too much time and space away from getting right and making a change. By the time you’re done contemplating on change (if you contemplate at all) you won’t even recognize the space you walk in. This morning I was thinking about all the relationships I have had, and this across the board. Regular people, ex-boyfriends/ ex-girl-friends, associates, by-chance friends, whatever label you want to call these people, they have an expiration date too, or a season they dance in your life. And like a dandelion, they blow away and land on someone else’s season until they find their own home. However, the one associate that stuck out to me the most this morning is my oldest brother. I haven’t seen this man …

02.24.18

I definitely thought the day would never come when I would say the words “I will” and “I  do”. I am a millennial and dating during this generation is hard. I can only imagine what other generations after mine are like. Every piece of our small reception was perfect and special. All I could do was smile. It was intimate, loving, and passionate. Jerome looked so happy. I can only imagine what next year will be like when I have my linesisters, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and all of our family to come out and support us. About an hour or two after the ceremony, Jerome and I were headed back to hang out with my parents and then go get something to eat. I then, began to cry. I thought about how much my parents mean to me and how much they have been my foundation, heart, support-team, and love. At that moment, I never knew that kind of love existed. I was flooded with love all at once; knowing the love of my life would …

Vegan/ Vegetarian Eating

This past weekend, my fiancé and I decided to watch a documentary. Like most situations, we enjoy watching documentaries; they happen to be some of the most factual information you can find in this world. The name of the documentary, is called, “What the health”. I am naturally a healthy eater/ consumer, and from time to time eat vegan meals or vegetarian meals. However, after this documentary, and the statistics that we became educated on, changed my perspective entirely; if you watch it, the documentary may do the same for you! Before watching What the health, my fiancé and I decided to stick to a healthy diet (even though we already had been, but a stricter diet to help him reach the weight he wants). Instead, we have decided to try a week of vegan/ vegetarian eating next week. He also agreed to try the vegan restaurant up the street from our house this weekend (I love him.. lol); which I’ve tried several times way before our new plan. I even questioned the impact of …